6 Strategies for Letting Go of Regret and Forgiving Yourself for the Mistakes You’ve Made
*This post was also printed in Elephant Journal. Read it here. One of the themes continuously brought to me in …
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“I Have Trust Issues.”
**This article also appeared in Elephant Journal. Read it here. You’ve heard this before. Or perhaps you’ve said it, yourself. I know …
Build Self-Confidence, Lower Anxiety, and Use Perfectionism to your Advantage: Part 2
So now that you’ve acknowledged that perhaps maladaptive perfectionism/self-criticism might be at the root of your pain, the next step …
Build Self-Confidence, Lower Anxiety, and Use Perfectionism to your Advantage: Part 1
The most common issue I see with my clients A fear of “failure” is probably the most common underlying problem …
How to Not Resort to Shaving Your Head in Response to Stress & Achieve “Balance,” Whatever the Eff that Means…
I get a lot of clients who come to counselling with a goal of “achieving balance” in their lives. After …
Before You Go On the Diet (Or Fill Your Spare Time With Power-Cleans), Ask Yourself Why.
Before you read this, let me state a couple of points: The meaning of this post is not to say, …
Unwillingly Single? Relationship Problems? My Go-To Existentialist Coping Skill and Yet Another Reason to Learn Self-Compassion
I’m a pretty happy, optimistic person, and I quite enjoy being single. At least, I do a good job of …
Turning Down Opportunities, Saying “No,” and Being Selfish: How going against all you’ve been taught will keep you sane
**This article was also featured in Elephant Journal. Read it here. I’ve been fighting a flu lately. I work in …
Grief: Supporting Yourself or Someone Else Through Loss
There used to be this quote on our fridge growing up. It read, “Life is painful; suffering is optional.” I’m …
With Less Than a Month Left Before the World Ends, Ask Yourself What’s Important
Today is November 27th, less than 4 weeks before the Apocalypse. The downside is that you only got one turkey …
The Power of Impermanence: a Coping Strategy We All Can Share
I was sitting in traffic this morning, feeling the familiar mild anxiety I do every morning when I’m quite sure …
Is Self-Judgment Making You Depressed?
I’ve never bought a Star, US Weekly, or OK! Magazine in my life, partially because if I’m going to pay …
Focus on the Process, Not the Product
I’ve attended a few Bikram Yoga classes lately, not because I like Bikram Yoga (I actually kind of despise Bikram …
“First World Problems:” Using Perspective Effectively
“It could be worse,” I often hear people say. “Yeah, I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown…yeah, I can’t …
Procrastination: 0. You: 1.
I should really write a new blog post. I’ll do it at lunch. But it’s so sunny out. I should …
The 75% Rule
Ever been told it doesn’t matter what your result, “as long as you tried your best” or that you should …
Meditation Outside the Monastery
I went on a meditation retreat a couple of years ago, determined to master meditation in 3 days (seemed reasonable …
Guilty! Identifying Productive Guilt
Unless you’re a psychopath, you’re familiar with the feeling of guilt. You know, that feeling you get if you ride …
Managing Anxiety Without Meds
Did you ever see the movie Van Wilder? Great flick. Good BC boy, too. Anyways, I remember very clearly something …
Heartbreak or Firing Squad?: Practical Tips for Managing your Broken Heart
One year ago, you may as well have called me Ophelia. I. got. dumped. I’m not talking knew-it-was-coming, pretty-much-fizzled-out, mutual-we’re-still-friends-now …
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